Saturday, November 29, 2008



“The work of today is the history of tomorrow,
and we are its makers.”

Rachel's girl scout troop will be heading down to San Franciso in May to bridge from Juniors to Cadette's by crossing the Golden Gate! They are going to have to work really hard between now and then to earn enough money to go. So, if you like Girl Scout cookies - this is the year to buy lots - especially from Rachel!!!!

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Last year...


On the day before Thanksgiving last year we were in Tunisia, Africa!

Monday, November 24, 2008

Rachel is in the Opera!






This coming weekend, Rachel and her girls' choir will be an important part of Bellevue Opera's performance of Hansel and Gretel. 14 choir members have been practicing like crazy in order to learn the complicated music and choreography required for the opera. It's a really amazing experience. Maybe Rachel takes after my opera singing Grandma!


There's an article about the Snoqualmie Valley Girl's Choir in last week's issue of the newspaper!

Atlas Shrugged

For Book Club this month we are supposed to be reading Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand. I say "supposed to" because it is 1,088 pages long and very difficult. It's probably a book we should be doing over 2 months. But anyway, I decided to listen to the abridged Audible version - which is 11 hours and 33 minutes long instead of the full audio version which is 52 hours and 19 minutes long. So far I'm on hour 1. Already it's a fascinating book. I'm really curious to see if I agree with it.

The author, Ayn Rand, wrote the book to illustrate her philosophy of objectivism. She believed that individuals should choose their values and actions solely by reason. According to Rand, the individual "must exist for his own sake, neither sacrificing himself to others nor sacrificing others to himself. The pursuit of his own rational self-interest and of his own happiness is the highest moral purpose of his life." She also believed in capitalism and that "in a system of full capitalism, there should be (but, historically, has not yet been) a complete separation of state and economics, in the same way and for the same reasons as the separation of state and church."

So far the characters I like are the "capitalists". They are the ones who actually want to work hard and make things better. But, usually I depise capitalism, so I'll have to see where this book is going. I think I'll end up agreeing with some parts of the objectivist philosophy and opposing others. I just hope I finish the book!

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Homeschooling Reasons 202 or so???

Do you ever notice that sometimes a topic will come up once and then many times again over a short period of time? That's the way it's been for me this past month about homeschooling. Homeschoolers and non; friends and strangers; people who wish they were homeschooling, wish they weren't homeschooling, think they never could homeschool, think they themselves should have been homeschooled... Quite a lot of people have been sharing their views with me while asking WHY?

It's most interesting with new people we meet. It usually goes something like:
New person: "Our kids are about the same age - where do yours go to school?"
Me: (internal cringe) "This is our first full year of homeschooling..." (wait to see reaction...)
New person: "Why?" (This can mean so many things - curiousity, confusion, contempt...)

It's always so funny to see how new people we meet react to homeschooling. Some are really interested (and maybe even a little jealous); some back away, like "Oh-oh, another weirdo". Some immediately assume the said homeschooled kid had trouble in school.

So, I've been inspired to write another "Reasons Why to Homeschool" post.

When Alex was in middle school he was a "super-star student. His 6th grade teachers (incidentally - very good teachers who did their best to challenge Alex within their means) absolutely loved him - and told me many times. The principal asked him to play piano at every award ceremony - and only him, a 6th grader - no other piano playing kids were asked. His band teacher liked his attitude and loved the fact that he has perfect pitch. In fact, he thought so highly of Alex that he told him and us, several times, that Alex should not even be at that middle school. What do you do with THAT as a parent? Now couple that with the fact that at home we were witnessing this straight-A kid never practicing his band instrument, rarely doing any homework ("I finished it on the bus..."), and, while developing a typical middle school attitude (not a good thing), reveling in all the attention. Attention for what we considered mediocre work. Very mediocre. Add in the fact that Alex missed almost 5 weeks of school for sickness and a trip to Hawaii, and an additional 4 weeks at the end of the year when my mom broke her knee and we went to Chicago to help her. Note that he still earned all A's. Add in my remembering how easy school was for me - I never lifted a finger (or, rather a book) and still had all A's. And then my remembering how I went to college and it was, well, work. And, I did not know how to study, or even really want to. I wanted the easy street route - probably why I switched out of Chemical Engineering into Accounting (I know Pat is happy about this, at least sometimes...). Now, finally factor in Alex spending all his sick time at home watching the History Channel and asking to be homeschooled. Well, it all adds up - why go for mediocrity when we had the chance to do something cool and hopefully help Alex develop actual learning skills, not just getting-by (albeit, really well) and checking-the-box skills. That's where we are today. So, the kid didn't have any problems at school. Not academically and not socially (that's why he attended band and lunch during 7th grade - for "friend" time!) We had a problem not helping him live up to his high potential - in his own eyes - not just the eyes of everyone else. That's what it's all about. Now, we just need a plan to get there - but that's another post!

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Something you definitely DON'T need - if you're under 16!

I'm on a rant against kids having cell phones again. We were just at a family game night on Sunday - the game was basketball . Real, not Wiii (does that exist?) The kids were all having a great time - in between running over to check their cell phones! Give me a break! You are between 12 and 17. Are you really THAT important that you can't be out of touch? Are you on call to do brain surgery? Will your friends DIE if they can't text you for say an hour?

Don't get me wrong, I can see the merit of a cell phone at times like when Alex's soccer practice ends at 5:00 and I'm not planning to get there until 5:15, it's dark, raining.... But I don't think kids should be so dependent on cell phones. It's really symptomatic of another problem, I've decided. The fact that kids are so self-centered these days. They're living in an "It's all about me" world - all the time. Of course they need to be reachable 24-7 - they are the center of the world!

I also don't understand the parents that tolerate this. Do they not mind outsiders invading their kids' time constantly? During homework, sports, dinner. Not to mention family time. Maybe they're so busy themselves they're happy their kids are occupied. I think it's sad. If and when we do get the kids a cell phone, there will definitely be restrictions. It should be a useful tool, not an obsession.

Talking Point interview - here's the description: Teenagers are using cell phones anywhere and everywhere they can. That usage can sometimes come at the expense of education, a good night's sleep and even safety.

Cell Phones For Ransom - I like this idea!

Cell Phone Babies - super funny!

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Trans-Siberian Orchestra


Last night we went to see the Trans-Siberian Orchestra. They are amazing. They play mostly classical music adaptations on rock and roll instruments. Really cool to see a modern day take on the Classical Composers' works of genius.

Saturday, November 8, 2008

Something you want, something you need.....

So, is spending $100 on the holiday's an achievable goal? Well, probably not this year. I think it would need a year's worth of "education" if you want to call it that. Setting expectations with the kids about a new way to celebrate the holidays. Planning way ahead so that everyone would have time to come up with creative alternatives for gift giving. But having said that, we have actually been talking about alternatives since around May, when my mom was here visiting us and we were talking about ways to save money at Christmas. We said we wanted to move more toward a "Handmade, Antique or Fair Trade" holiday. Rachel has been thinking about gifts she can make for several months now. She's actually even made a few! I've been doing a lot of thinking too - that's where it has ended though. Alex and Pat are kind of at a loss. They don't do crafts, and I don't even think Pat knew what fair trade was until I starting organizing the whole CRS Fair Trade Sale at church. So, I'm still not quite sure what to do about the holidays yet. I am planning to keep it simple though. No expensive, electronic gifts. Nothing large and heavy that has to be shipped from Chicago to Seattle (we say this every year and every year spend almost $200 just to ship things...) Most of the gifts for members of my family are very small tokens from Peru (fair-trade - ha!) and in Pat's family we always do a White Elephant deal, so that cuts down on the frivolous buying. Somewhere I heard this catchy little piece of holiday-buying guidance - "Something you want, something you need, something to wear, something to read". So, maybe that's what we'll use this year for a gift-giving strategy for the kids.

What is everyone else doing????

Friday, November 7, 2008

Hundred Dollar Holiday

(an excerpt I found on the website of the author of Deep Economy - this really makes sense and reflects a goal I am working towards as well)
The Case For a More Joyful Christmas
By Bill McKibben

Introduction: Who Stole Christmas?
I've been called my share of names, but the only one that ever really stung was "grinch." The year that a few friends and I started the Hundred Dollar Holiday program through our rural Methodist churches, several business-page columnists in the local papers leveled the G-word—we were dour do-gooders, they said, bent on taking the joy out of Christmas. And, frankly, their charges sounded plausible enough. After all, we were asking our families, our friends, and our church brethren to try and limit the amount of money they spend on the holiday to a hundred dollars—to celebrate the holiday with a seventh or an eighth of the normal American materialism. There's no question that would mean fewer "Pop guns! And bicycles! Roller skates! Drums! Checkerboards! Tricycles! Popcorn! And plums!" Not to mention Playstations, Camcorders, Five Irons, and various Obsessions. Perhaps my heart was two sizes too small.
So it was with some trepidation that I carefully reread my daughter's well-worn copy of the Seuss classic, neatly shelved with Green Eggs and Ham, Horton Hears a Who, and all the other secular parables. There on the cover was the Grinch himself, red eyes gleaming malevolently as he plotted the sack of Whoville. He hated the noise of the kids with their toys, and he hated the feast of rare Who-roast-beast, and most of all he hated the singing. "Why, for fifty-three years I've put up with it now! I MUST stop this Christmas from coming!...But HOW?" Simple enough, of course. All he had to do was loot the town of its packages, tinsel, trees, food, even the logs in the fireplace. Even the crumbs for the mice disappeared back up the chimney.
But of course it didn't work. That Christmas morning, listening from his aerie for the wailing from Whoville below, the Grinch heard instead the sound of singing. Christmas had come. "It came without ribbons! It came without tags! It came without packages, boxes, or bags!" After puzzling three hours till his puzzler was sore, the Grinch was forced to conclude that Christmas came from no store.
And so I breathed a sigh of real relief. Not only was I not a grinch trying to wreck the meaning of Christmas, it was abundantly clear who the grinches of our culture really are: those relentless commercial forces who have spent more than a century trying to convince us that Christmas does come from a store, or a catalogue, or a virtual mall on the Internet. Every day, but especially in the fall, they try their hardest to turn each Cindy Lou Who into a proper American consumer—try their best to make sure her Christmas revolves around Sony or Sega, Barbie or Elmo.
But Dr. Seuss's message went deeper for me. You see, when we'd begun thinking about Hundred Dollar Holidays, it was mostly out of concern for the environment or for poor people. Think of all that wrapping paper, we said, all those batteries, all that plastic. Think of all those needy people who could be helped if we donated our money to them instead. Think of all those families who went deep into debt trying to have a "proper" Christmas.
All those issues are important, and I've spent much of my life writing about and working on them. But the more we progressed on our little campaign, traveling around our region having evening meetings at small rural churches like the one I attend, the more we came to understand why people were responding—indeed, why we had responded to the idea. It wasn't because we wanted a simpler Christmas at all. It was because we wanted a more joyous Christmas. We were feeling cheated—as if the season didn't bring with it the happiness we wanted. We were Christians, and we felt that the story of the birth of this small baby who would become our Savior, a story that should be full of giddy joy, could hardly break through to our hearts amid all the rush and fuss of the season. And many of our friends, Christian or not, felt that too much of the chance for family togetherness was being robbed by the pressures of Christmas busyness and the tensions of gift-giving.
Christmas had become something to endure at least as much as it had become something to enjoy—something to dread at least as much as something to look forward to. Instead of an island of peace amid a busy life, it was an island of bustle. The people we were talking to wanted so much more out of Christmas: more music, more companionship, more contemplation, more time outdoors, more love. And they realized that to get it, they needed less of some other things: not so many gifts, not so many obligatory parties, not so much hustle.
Once, after an evening program filled with carol-singing and kids' stories and general proselytizing for the idea of simpler Christmases, one woman said to me: "Thank you for giving me permission to celebrate Christmas the way I've always wanted to." What she meant, I decided, was that the message from the pulpit allowed her to stand up to the pressures of the advertisers, of the glossy magazines with their endless decorating tips—to stand up to the voice that had been planted in the back of her head that told her what Christmas should be. What she meant, too, was that by giving her a target—a hundred dollar Christmas—our small campaign had provided her with an anchor to hold her fast amid the gale of holiday commercialism. There's nothing magic about a hundred dollars; truth be told, I chose the name because it sounded good with "holiday." And obviously big families may decide to spend more at Christmas, and small ones may be happier spending less. But the hundred dollar goal seems to work well as a kind of check, a way of saying that your commitment to a better Christmas goes beyond merely complaining or telling yourself that this year it will be different.
None of this means that changing your Christmas patterns will be simple. It may cause tensions with other members of your extended family, or with kids who have grown up thinking of Christmas morning as a lootfest. It may take you years to build down to a Hundred Dollar Holiday, years of talking and writing to your near and dear. In an obsessively commercial society, it will always seem a little odd to many.
But it will be worth it. I am writing this in April, and already I am looking forward to Christmas, secure in the knowledge that it really will be a time of calm and happiness, a season to linger in and not to "get through." A time to celebrate the birth of a Savior. This book offers plenty of practical ideas for new ways of celebrating. But it's as much a why—to book as a how—to book—it's my stab at a way to think about Christmas in our place and time. Christmas, this burst of light at the darkest season of the year, is too precious to surrender to the various grinches; it's time to build Whovilles in our families, our communities, and our nation.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Let's hope this proves true - I'd like to send the kids to college...


From MSN Money ...

The world's markets are poised for a broad-based rally with Barack Obama's presidential win.
With U.S. stocks pulling back today after a big Election Day gain, that may seem a bold prediction. But the reasons are simple.
In the short term, at least, stocks respond to sentiment more than fundamentals. For example, even in the face of an oncoming recession, the recent downdraft sank many stocks to prices much lower than justified by their fundamental outlooks.
With Obama's win, the same thing could happen in reverse. Whatever the reality, in many people's minds, the Democrat represents hope for a better future.
That's true globally, not just in the United States. Polls in Russia, Germany, Spain and even China tell the same story. People around the world express optimism that Obama, as president, would change U.S. foreign policy for the better. Further, the win by the Illinois senator proves to many doubters that the American dream is alive and well.

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Yes We Can!!!!


We can finally hope for so many things - too many to list.

For the war to end...
For global warming to be taken seriously...
For the economy to improve...
For corporations and the rich to pay their fair share...
For national debt to be reduced...
For our country to regain the respect of the rest of the world...
For more accessible health care and tax-free health benefits...
For an overhaul of "No Child Left Behind" and more support for education...
I'll add more when I have more time.

YAHOO!!!!!!!







Monday, November 3, 2008

We need a change


and let's hope it's the right one...

Saturday, November 1, 2008

Another Mother for Peace

Another Mother for Peace is a non-profit, non-partisan association dedicated to eliminating the use of war as a means of solving disputes among nations, people and ideologies.



A friend gave me this card for my birthday. I wondered where it came from, and found that it is the logo for Another Mother for Peace (AMP). This not-for-profit organization was formed during the Vietnam War and revived due to events taking place currently. The website has a lot of important insights. Included are: 1) war is obsolete - that civilized methods must be creatively sought and implemented to resolve international differences; and 2) citizens must be encouraged to support legislation aimed at dismantling the war machinery and war mentality so pervasive in Washington. My favorite part is the Pax Materna or motherhood pact - which states, "No mother is an enemy to another mother." AMP's Pax Materna is "a permanent, irrevocable condition of amnesty and understanding among mothers of the world." Despite differences in ideology, politics, religion, and other values, most mothers agree that they do not want to see their sons and daughters at war. When the kids and I went to see the Dalai Lama speak this past summer, he said that if the world wants to see an end to wars, then women should be the leaders. Sounds like even he would agree with AMP philosophy!

If you haven't voted yet (and even if you have) check out this newsletter - Fall 2008.

And finally - the complete Pax Materna-


THE PAX MATERNA
I JOIN WITH MY SISTERS IN EVERY LAND
IN THE PAX MATERNA —
A PERMANENT DECLARATION OF PEACE
THAT TRANSCENDS OUR IDEALOGICAL DIFFERENCES
IN THE NUCLEAR SHADOW, WAR IS OBSOLETE.
I WILL NO LONGER SUFFER IT IN SILENCE
NOR SUSTAIN IT BY COMPLICITY.
THEY SHALL NOT SEND MY SON
TO FIGHT ANOTHER MOTHER’S SON.
FOR NOW, FOREVER, THERE IS NO MOTHER
WHO IS ENEMY TO ANOTHER MOTHER.